The nine signs that show your relationship could be headed for the rocks
1. Your partner treats you much better in public.
Behind closed doors your partner is either rude, grumpy, always busy,
emotionally unavailable or even overtly critical and hostile towards
you, yet in front of others or outside the home they treat you much
better.
This suggests that their image matters more to them than you do, and
they know their behavior towards you is wrong. They're treating you with
disrespect when they think they can get away with it.
2. You are preoccupied by thoughts of whether your partner loves you and whether you can trust them
Whilst some people are naturally a little more insecure than others, if
you find yourself preoccupied and concerned about your relationship and
whether your partner cares for you enough it suggests you are not
getting enough emotional nourishment from your partner to help you feel
safe and secure.
3. You find yourself 'snooping' and going through your partner's messages
If you feel overly suspicious and concerned that your partner might be
hiding something, but talking about things isn't enough to reassure you,
then you may have a trust problem within your relationship.
This might be because of your own insecurity or it might be because your
partner is not being appropriately transparent and is giving you cause
for concern.
4. You're told you're too sensitive or over-dramatic
If you voice concerns but your concerns are frequently invalidated,
belittled or even mocked as arising out of your own excessive
sensitivity or over-active imagination then this suggests your partner
is trying to undermine your faith in your own judgement and perceptions
and places more importance on their own opinions and judgements than
yours. They may or may not have something to hide, but either way, to
undermine your sense of reality or lead you to question your own mind is
very damaging for you.
5. Your partner frequently compares you to other women
If your partner makes frequent comparisons between you and his
'wonderful' ex or someone else perhaps, like his mother, or a friend's
partner, saying that you should be/think/behave more like them, then
this is obviously damaging to your self-esteem and sense of self-worth.
Your partner should make you feel special, wonderful, and should far
more commonly highlight your strengths rather than your weaknesses.
6. You feel as if your partner might abandon you if you do or say something they don't like
If the continuation of your relationship feels conditional, as if you'll
be punished or cast aside if you fail to measure up, then you will not
be able to relax and feel secure in your partner's presence and instead
you'll feel like you have to perform and keep them happy. This is an
uneven power balance within the relationship and it keeps you 'on your
toes' working hard while your partner holds all the cards.
Eventually you'll end up exhausted or you'll put a foot wrong and you'll
be rejected anyway, despite your best efforts, because secretly it's
likely that your partner is either not willing, or is unable to
genuinely love you.
7. When something goes well for you, you get the sense your partner is not actually pleased for you
If your partner does not celebrate your successes with you it suggests
they are threatened by your development and growth and feel intimidated
by it. Whereas a true partner would be genuinely joyful about your
success and you would be able to feel their genuine glee and celebrate
together.
8. Your partner never apologizes, or only ever says 'Sorry, but…'
The mark of a healthy relationship is one in which both parties are able
to take responsibility for their mistakes and try to repair and make
amends. If your partner never apologizes or only ever excuses their own
thoughtless words or actions then they are not truly appreciating their
impact upon you.
9. Your instincts tell you that something is 'off'
Sometimes you can't put your finger on exactly what is going on in your
relationship, you just know that it's leaving you feeling unloved,
insecure, suspicious, confused, unfulfilled or simply uncomfortable. Try
to figure out the exact moments when you get that sinking feeling in
your stomach or find yourself on the back foot trying to work out what's
going on. Trust your instincts, if something feels wrong, then there's a
good chance that it is, for you at least. 
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